There comes a point in almost every twenty somethings life, when they are the only single friend left on the planet, or at least within their peer group. All of a sudden the bonds of friendship which once were so pivotal to all of yours, become less vital in theirs. This is never easy. Living in impermanent homes, in ill furnished apartments, in ever changing cities, the friendships you form during your twenties are often unlike those you form at other stages of life. They are your foundation. Your friends in affect become your home.
So, what happens when your friends begin to fall in love and build new, more stable foundations? No longer are you the anchors balancing each other out, holding each other up, no matter how precariously, as you ventured fourth into the rocky terrain of early adulthood. Change is the only certainty in life and it comes to us all at different times, at varying rates.
Perhaps one of the most difficult things about being the final single friend is not bracing the cold, unknowable days alone, but is the sense of redundancy which can come with having no one to look after, or to stew over tea with after a crazy week of work or after a messy night out. Of course, you can care for others by helping out a charity, or by ringing up loved ones. However, when you are not in direct contact with these people, from time to time it can still be difficult to accept, what can feel like, empty space in your life.
What can we do to make ourselves feel better? Well, perhaps we must first accept that most of us experience this at some point in their lives. Like the country-side, the city can be a lonely place, especially when you are young and not yet sure where exactly your life is going. Similarly, we can spend that time learning, about ourselves, about our cities or home-places, about new sports, music and art forms. Above all else, as difficult as being alone may feel, there can be no doubt that facing the world on your own for a little while makes you a stronger person, and there is no shame in being glad of that. We all find love in our own way at different times and being alone is neither something to feel embarrassed about, nor something we must change before we find the right person to do so with. In stead of filling that new found time feeling miserable or binge watching hours of mind numbing Netflix programmes, learn to take care of yourself and your imagination in ways you may not have done before.